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近日，复旦大学在校内公示了“开除三名学生学籍”的处分，原因是该校两名研究生和一名博士生校外嫖娼，被处分的三名同学中，还有一人连续两次在美国大学生数学建模比赛中，荣获一等奖。
大众在“哀其不幸，怒其不争”的同时，有人认为学校应该保护学生的个人隐私，也有人觉得学校只是在校内公布，没什么不妥，凤凰网也针对此事展开了投票。
本文无意对犯错的同学进行道德审判，只是想跟大家一起探讨嫖娼背后可能的原因。我们通过这篇BBC新闻提及的几个案例来了解一下（均为真实案例，文中人物皆化名）：
形单影只的Fred
“Fred lives in a remote rural area and for many years he was a full-time carer, looking after his mother. He says he didnt have a chance to meet people - so decided to pay for sex.”
“多年来，Fred一直住在偏远的乡下，他照顾着自己的母亲，是一个全职看护。他说没有机会认识别人，所以就决定花钱 *** 。”
"It really wasnt so much the sex as wanting female company and if you are not getting out and socialising then it is very difficult to think about how youre going to get that."
“其实我更渴望的是女性的陪伴，性不是主要原因。可如果你不出去社交，想破头也不知道如何才能得到这种陪伴。”
欲壑难填的Robert
Robert has been married for many years.
Robert已经结婚很多年了。
"I ended up a highly sexed man married to a woman who really didnt enjoy sex - [or even] hugging, kissing and so on.”
“最后我这个 *** 焚身的男人娶了一个清心寡欲的女人，她甚至对拥抱、亲吻等等都不感兴趣。”
“Shes an excellent, excellent partner. In every other way we got on like a house on fire, but just not in bed."
“她真的是一个很不错的伴儿。在其他方面，我们都能碰撞出火花，唯床第之间无交集。”
"I wanted to hang on to my marriage," he says, "I wanted to do right as much as I could by my wife, so the obvious thing was to pay for it."
“我想要留住我的婚姻“，他说，“我想要在妻子面前尽量做好自己，所以（满足自己）最快的方法就是花钱 *** 。”
逃避现实的Graham
For the first 30 years of his life, former civil servant Graham thought he would never be the sort of man who would pay for sex.But one weekend in Amsterdam he found himself walking the streets of the red-light district with some men he had just met.
Graham曾经是一个公务员，在他人生的前30年里，根本没想过自己是那种会花钱 *** 的男人。然而，在阿姆斯特丹的一个周末，他跟着几个刚认识的男生走进了红灯区的街道。
He followed one girl to a red-lit booth and spent half an hour with her, chatting and having sex.
他跟着一个女生走进红色灯光的小房子，和她聊天、 *** ，共度了半小时。
Reflecting on his previous relationships and painful breakups, he wondered: "Maybe you dont need to do any of that. Maybe you can pay and have these just incredible moments of spontaneous, all over in half an hour… just… magic."
反思前几次恋爱和痛苦的分手经历，他不禁疑惑：“也许恋爱都是枉然。花点钱可能就会拥有这种不可思议的时刻，半小时就够了……就很……神奇啊。”
放荡不羁的Robert
Robert, however, is motivated by more than a need for intimacy. He pays for sex to satisfy his fantasies.
然而亲密关系不是Robert花钱 *** 的主要动机，他是为了满足自己的幻想。
"I seek out interesting experiences - but I kid myself that this makes up for all those thousands of sessions of domestic sex that I cant have and never will have."
“我追求有趣的体验——我骗自己 *** 可以弥补成百上千次的夫妻性生活，我没有夫妻生活，也永远不会有。”
He describes himself as "a bit of an exhibitionist" and a "voyeur" and has arranged sex parties with groups.
他说自己“有点喜欢在人前做”也“喜欢看别人做”，而且还 *** 性派对。
双面人生的Brian
Brian, who is in his 50s, says he is happily married. But he started paying for sex long before he met her. He says sex in his marriage lacked "a bit of excitement".
Brian已经50多岁了，他说自己婚姻幸福。但是遇到妻子之前，他就开始花钱 *** 了。他说婚姻的性生活缺乏“一些 *** ”。
Brian says he leads a double life. His family and friends are kept in the dark about the other side of him.
Brian说他过着双面人生，他的家人以及朋友都不知道他还有这一面。
"I dont think they would like to think that I was getting involved in visiting working girls for sex because its not the thing that a respectable person does to be honest.
我想他们无法接受我会 *** 解决生理问题，因为说实话，这也不是体面人干的事儿。
"And to all other intents and purposes, I am."
但是我其他方面都蛮好的。
最后用弗罗伊德和他大弟子荣格的分歧来结束今天的文章。弗罗伊德认为“力比多（libido）”是一种推动力，使得人类无穷无尽地追求 *** ，人类一切的文化、艺术以及社会成就皆归根于对 *** 的追寻，但在庞大的无意识冰山下，人类束手无策。荣格并不同意把所有问题都完全归结到“欲望”上，而是更深层地推进了这个理论，他认为人类共享一个精神本体，但必须用理智作领导，意志做辅助，欲望做服从。
大家认为他们两个谁说的更有道理呢？
周邦琴Albert
●没有名牌大学背景，没有英语专业背景
●没有国外留学经历，没有英语生活环境
●22岁成为500强公司英文讲师，录音素材全球员工使用
●自学成为同声传译，25岁为瑞士总统翻译
