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10 Parental Rules That Tell a Wise FamilyFrom a Good One
将聪明家庭与好家庭区别开来的十条父母规则
Many mothers dream of a genius child. Butdespite all the tips and tricks on children’s upbringing, there is no definiterule book on how to raise one.
许多妈妈梦想有一个天才的孩子。可尽管在育儿方面有许多要诀和技巧，但在抚养孩子方面却没有一本确定的规则手册。
On the other hand, some parents do not haveto resort to psychology articles and parental forums, and their kids often turnout to be little geniuses. We decided to learn their secret and discoveredseveral important rules.
另一方面，许多父母不用求助于心理学方面的文章和父母论坛，他们的孩子结果是小天才。我们决定了解他们的秘密，结果发现了几条重要的规则。
10. Reward independence
奖赏独立性
好家庭：我什么都能做！聪明家庭：我什么都能自己做！In some families, parents are convincedthat children will succeed in life if they believe they can do anything. Butit’s much more important to make children understand that they can do anythingthemselves.
可有些家庭，父母相信，孩子如果相信自己什么都可以做成，他们的人生就会成功。但是让孩子们明白，他们能够自己做任何事情，这更加重要。
Thanks to this mindset, children will knowthat they don’t just go with the flow but shape their future.
由于有这种思维模式，孩子们会知道他们不能仅仅随大流，而是要塑造他们的未来。
9. All things are difficult before they areeasy
所有的事情都是先难后易
——你还太小，这个干不了。——别着急。脱下来再重试一次To become independent, children’s endeavor *** ust be acknowledged and cherished. If a kid started a new hobby, at any age,their parents should support and encourage them.
要变得有独立性，孩子的努力必须被承认，而且要加以珍惜。如果一个孩子，无论在什么年龄，开始一种新的爱好，他们的父母应该支持鼓励他们。
If something does not go well, olderrelatives can always say "All beginnings are difficult."
如果某件事情进行得不顺利，年龄大的亲属总可以说“万事开头难。”
8. Trust is the best reward
信任是最好的奖赏
So how should we reward those endeavors?Not with candy, and that’s for sure.
因此我们应该怎样奖赏这些努力呢？不是用糖果，这是肯定的。
You need to keep in mind that a child canbe rewarded with trust. If he is fully trusted to do a task by himself, to thechild it means he is doing a good job.
你需要牢记：孩子们可以用信任（托付）来奖赏。如果完全托付他自己完成一份任务，对于这个孩子来说，那就意味着他干的不错。
7. The outer is not everything
外表并不是一切
——你又会把身上全弄脏了！Another important difference lies in thefact that future geniuses are never focused on the exterior.
另一个重要的区别在于，未来的天才从来不关注外表这一事实。
The truth is that keeping your child cleanand neat on the outside takes too much effort and time from the parent, as wellas the child. Wise parents consider it useless to the child’s personal growthand development to always keep clean clothes on.
事实上，让你的孩子外表整洁需要花费父母以及孩子太多的精力和时间。聪明的父母认为总是让他们穿干净衣服，对于孩子的个人成长和发展没有用处。
Children themselves don’t care at all whatthey look like.
孩子们自己一点也不在意他们的外表是什么样子。
6. Accepting untidiness
接受不整洁
——过后我应该打扫吗？Kids are often surrounded by chaos whichdoes not bother their wise parents. They understand: children are untidy, theyknock things over, they spill everything around them.
孩子们周围总是一片混乱，这并不让聪明的父母烦恼。他们理解：孩子们不整洁；他们会打翻东西；他们把什么东西都撒得周围到处是。
That’s why, instead of nagging their kidsabout their untidy rooms, they allow them to live however they deemcomfortable, explaining why tidiness is useful to them with time.
那就是为什么他们不因为孩子们的房间不整洁而唠叨，而是允许他们按照自己认为舒服的方式生活，同时，随着时间的推移，向他们解释为什么保持整洁对他们有用。
5. All energy runs out eventually
所有的能量最终都会耗尽
Some parents can spend the whole dayrunning around and telling kids, “Don’t climb that!“ ”Don’t touch this!"or “Calm down!”
有些父母会花一整天时间到处跑，告诉孩子们：“不能爬那个！”“不能动这个！”或者“静下来！”
Wise parents of such energetic kids find itimportant for the children to let it all out while they are still young. Thisway, as *** s, they will be more confident and persistent in all theirendeavors.
这种精力旺盛孩子的聪明的父母发现，他们还小的时候，把精力全都释放出来，对孩子来说非常重要。通过这种方式，作为父母，他们所有的努力会更有信心更能坚持。
4. Wise freedom
聪明的自由
——你很愚蠢！——宝贝，你说什么？！——你很愚蠢！——什么？！去到墙角站着，想想你说的什么！？Indeed, ingenious kids are allowed manythings. Even another drawing on the wallpaper is seen as a sign that a kid hasthe artistic potential of a great painter.
确实，机敏的孩子在许多方面都是受到容忍。即使在壁纸上再画上画，都被看作是孩子具有成为大画家的艺术潜力的标志。
However, there is a line which even suchchildren cannot cross: disrespecting their family. It may only take a judginglook if he dyes your cat pink, but insulting a parent will earn the kid a muchharsher punishment.
然而，有一条线，即使这种孩子都不能越过：不尊重他们的家人。如果他把你家的猫染成粉红色，也许只需要一个评判的眼神就可以，但是侮辱父母，孩子就需要更严厉的惩罚。
3. Dad is the leader, and so is mom
爸爸是领导，妈妈也是
Respect for parents is taught from an earlyage. Every kid in the household knows that her parents are the leaders, andanything she does is of less importance.
从早期就应该教孩子尊重父母。家里的每个孩子都知道父母是领导，自己做的任何事情都没有那么重要。
Therefore, children never depend on their parentsto do or get something for them, but instead they try to achieve things bythemselves.
因此，孩子们从来不依赖父母给他们做什么或者获取什么，他们反而自己努力完成事情。
2. Child self-control exists
孩子的自制力是存在的
——给你弟弟留一些！——这是给我弟弟的。Instead of punishing a child by takingsomething away, it’s better to set rules granting a certain benefit for acorrect action.
不要把孩子的东西拿走，惩罚他们，定一些规矩，因为某种正确的行为给他们某些好处，这样更好。
If a child does not think narrowly in termsof restrictions and punishments, he learns to correct his behavior for his owngood.
在限制和惩罚方面，如果孩子不狭隘地思考，他就能学会为了自己的好处而改变行为。
1. Nothing goes unnoticed
不要忽视任何事情
——看着多漂亮啊！Modern psychologists advise you not topraise your child for any scribble, thereby stimulating his development.Parents of future geniuses are nonetheless convinced that any achievement mustbe rewarded.
现代心理学家建议你不要因为乱写乱画而表扬你的孩子，从而 *** 他的发展。尽管如此，未来天才的父母相信，任何成就都应该奖赏。
Even if such a mother’s child brings her anapkin with unrecognizable scribbles all over it, she will find a pattern andproudly present it as a painting to the rest of the family.
即使这样一位妈妈的孩子给她带来一张餐巾纸，上面满满的都是无法辨认的乱写乱画，她也会发现一个图案，然后自豪地把它作为一幅画，向其他家庭成员展示。
