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别扯什么年龄啦。
这是从全民偶像到全民公敌的小男孩，终于倦鸟知还。想来也是感叹，
Bieber的妈妈Mallette，Hailey，Bieber，Selena……
可以聊的，好多，好多。2011年2月11日，Never Say Never电影公映，
当时的全民明星向世界展示自己的多才多艺。转眼就是八年！
时间都去哪儿了？
哭啊，我变老了
对多少人来说，Bieber就是自己最美的青春回忆。
八年前，不太为人所知的，是天主教在线（Catholic Online）对Bieber妈妈Pattie Mallette的专访。
“我的祷告，是Justin得到保护，抵挡这个行业的诱惑。”Mallette希望Justin的众多粉丝为他的“智慧与分辨”来祈祷。
"My prayer is for Justin to be protected against the temptations of the industry," Mallette wants Justins many fans to prayer for his "wisdom and discernment."哦，“这个行业”！
这位妈妈，显然看见了自己年轻儿子所面临的试探。
这是一个黑暗的行业。我希望Justin和他的音乐，成为照在黑暗里的光。
…that this is a dark industry. Id like to think that Justin and his music is a light in the darkness.敬虔妈妈的祷告，蒙神应允了么？
就先来聊这位妈妈的传奇罢。
1975年，出生。
9岁，出道，电视，舞台，无一不能。
14岁，酒精， *** ，LSD，商店偷窃被抓，破坏公务被抓。
15岁，与Jeremy Bieber相爱。
16岁，离家。谋生的方法，是偷窃和 *** 。
17岁，冲在卡车前尝试自杀，被送入精神医院。
几个月后，又发现自己怀孕……“这个行业”的试探，Mallette真的是亲身经历。
如果是你，你要怎么办？
Mallette在分享中讲述当年的自己，
18岁就在人生尽头，
悔改，重新奉献自己给上帝，
可是忧心着，教会里审判的眼光。我说，“天啊，我是把生命握在自己手中了。看看我都做的什么。”我好羞耻。
怀孕，未婚，满身羞耻，我怎么回到教会呢？
I said, Oh my gosh, I took my life back in my own hands and look what I did. I was so ashamed. How could I go back to the church pregnant and unwed and so full of shame?这一年（1994），Mallette赶上的，是“多伦多祝福”（Toronto Blessing）的属灵复兴刚刚开始。John Arnott牧师一家接待她，把她带 *** 会。
2018年的聚会上，Mallette在Arnott夫妇的身边，回忆当初，
是你们教导他们（教会的会众）来爱我，带上我，就照我当时的样子爱我……
And you taught them to love me, to pick me up and love me where I was at…住在未婚产妇的住房中，Mallette开始参加“多伦多祝福”的聚会。
我记得一整队的属灵领袖们为我祷告，充满圣灵，预言说我会生育复兴。
I remember a whole bunch of leaders praying over me, filled with the Spirit and prophesying that I was going to birth revival.1994年3月1日出生的，正是Justin Bieber，
我们把他的生命奉献给了耶稣。
We dedicated his life to Jesus.出生后的Justin，被妈妈带去Arnott牧师在Stratford的教会。
之后生父Jeremy终于还是离开，Mallette在小镇Stratford住在 *** 公共住房，小Justin由密妈妈独自抚养。
2007年，13岁的Justin参加Stratford Star才艺表演，第三名。
Mallette将这段唱歌视频发在YouTube，之后又陆续发些私下的唱歌。这个视频就是给他住在外省的外婆看的。
The video was strictly intended for his grandmother to see in another province.然而看到这段视频的，还有Scooter Braun，
立刻签下Justin，带来亚特兰大给Usher培训，
转眼，红遍世界。你要说这是神迹，从Mallette的角度来看，还真是有这个意思。
我认为（在生命里）上帝是主导的。我遇见过神，从那以后我们享受了祂的怜悯和恩典。我所行的，就是我所信的。我照着这样的信仰，将Justin带大。
I think He plays the main role. I had an encounter with God, and since then, we have enjoyed His mercy and His grace. My whole walk is what I believe. I brought Justin up in the faith.Hailey的家庭，就是完全另一个世界。
出生在显赫的Baldwin家族，家族里演艺名星就有七位。
父亲是Baldwin四兄弟的最小一个。
纽约郊区成长，
homeschool的家庭教育，
十二年的严格芭蕾训练。第一次见到Justin，是2009年的一期Today Show，
伯伯Alec Baldwin给的票。唯一跟Justin相同，是父母亲坚定的基督信仰。
Hailey讲到自己的成长，
我是在教会中长大的。我是在那种生命里带大。我也认为每一个人都应该关心自己的属灵生命，和上帝建立个人的关系。
I was raised in church. I was brought up in that life, and I think that its very important for everybody to be in touch with their spirituality and to have a relationship with God.
（基督信仰）是我生命的一个重要部分。许多我最亲密的伙伴，我最信赖的人，最关心照顾我的人，大多都是我们教会的人，是竭力引导我的人。我知道这非常重要，因为这个行业里的所有人都是类似风格，你就很容易被裹挟着……失去方向。我的家庭和我周围的人帮助了我，教我对自己坦诚，根基稳固。
Its a big part of my life. A lot of my closest friends, people that I trust the most, people that have been there for me the most are all people that are in my church and people that are kind of trying to guide me from the outside perspective. I think thats so big for me, because if you have everybody in the same industry as you doing the same thing as you, its easy to get a little bit wrapped up and…lost. My family and people that I have around me personally are the reasons why I think Im able to stay very true to myself and very grounded.哦，又提到“这个行业”！
“这个行业”的试探，Hailey也看见。“这个行业”的试探，Justin Bieber又是怎样的体验？
说出来真的都是泪。
不聊也罢，反正是恶事千里，世人皆知。Quora上，为什么大家痛恨Justin Bieber？
各种痛心疾首，这里不表。Why do people hate Justin Bieber？www.quora.com/Why-do-people-hate-Justin-Bieber-4终于聊到Justin和Hailey。
这个Hailey有比较详细的聊过。
照着她的版本，复述这两人的八卦。刚才有提到，Hailey第一次见到Justin，是在Today Show作现场观众。
Hailey描述当时，对未来老公的完全无感，我从来不是谁的超级粉丝，不光是对他，对其他人也是。从来也不会狂热，尖叫。我只是觉得他还算可爱。大家都喜欢他。但是（认识他的）最早几年，我们在年龄上是有代沟的。
I was never a superfan, of him or of anyone. It was never that crazed, screaming thing. I didn’t think about it in any kind of way except for the fact that he was cute. Everybody had a crush on him. But for the first few years we had a weird age gap.做朋友，那是在纽约的Hillsong教会了。
（话说去Hillsong教会的大牌名星还真是多。）渐渐的，他成了我最好的男性朋友。我常常在他身边跑来跑去，但是从没有一起出去（约会）。
Over time he became my best guy friend. I was running around with him as his homie, but we weren’t hanging out [romantically].酗酒 *** 的最低谷，
是Hillsong教会的Lentz牧师，带Justin到自己家里，
同吃同住，冰球，足球，篮球……
一天天的，带着这个“全民公敌”重新得力。Hailey回忆起来当时去牧师家探访Justin，
我为整个事情难过的要死。我只想他开心，安全，感受喜乐。但我也真的为他骄傲。他没有特别的戒毒教练，没有AA或是其他课程，这样就坚持下来——我觉得很了不起。他就是个行走的神迹。
I grieved very intensely over the whole situation. I just wanted him to be happy and be good and be safe and feel joy. But Im really proud of him. To do it without a program, and to stick with it without a sober coach or AA or classes—I think its extraordinary. He is, in ways, a walking miracle.恢复后的Justin，也在Lentz牧师的带领下，在教会实习，重新操练对上帝的信心。
三年前才短暂约会过一回，并不愉快，Hailey超级坦诚，
发生了负面的事情，我们现在还在讨论解决呢。
Negative things happened that we still need to talk about and work through.
还有段时间，只要我走进一个房间，他就走出去。
There was a period where if I walked into a room, he would walk out.小男生的情绪啊……
再重逢，
是2018年6月，Wilkerson牧师在迈阿密的聚会上。
（Wilkerson也算是明星牧师，主持过Kim Kardashian和Kanye West的婚礼。）离开Selena的Justin Bieber，终于认清Hailey的好。
聊到这里，再明显不过了。
两个人相识相爱，真是离不开教会。（我们之间的）公分母，我跟你讲，一直都是教会。
The common denominator, I promise you, is always church.基督的信仰，是两个人唯一的共通。
家庭和性格，是完全两样。Hailey，是认真，冷静，理智。
Justin，是热心，情绪，敏感。路演经理Ryan Good这么说，
热心，就是Justin表演成功的原因。他能够真正感受到人群的心情。但是在他的世界里，太多的索取-索取-索取。他很难感受安全。Hailey是平静的力量，她是稳定的水平仪。
That caring is what makes Justin such a great performer. He can really feel the mood of a crowd. But in his world, where theres so much take-take-take, its hard for him to feel safe. Hailey is this force of calm. She is level.讲到情绪，Hailey这么说两人的差异，
我必须深深地挖掘，才会触到情绪。他却是立刻就来。
I have to really dive deep and struggle to be in touch with my emotions. He gets there immediately.两人在洛杉矶城市教会（City Church）的牧师Judah Smith这样说Justin，
他给了世界很多东西，也有很多是从他身上夺去，包括自然的成长过程，还有社会与人际关系成长的机会。他能感受到所有事情。这么多年来，他要分辨屋里谁是真心待他。他有如蜘蛛般的敏感，但这能力也伤害到他。他能注意到人们眉间的动作。我现在激动得很，我看见他竭尽全力，热心帮助周围人，即便在过去十年，他自己是生活在任人品评的玻璃箱。
He gives a lot to the world, and a lot has been taken from him, including a bit of the natural progression of development, the chance to grow relationally and socially. He can feel everything, and thats from those years spent wondering who in the room is being authentic with him. His spider sense is remarkable, but it haunts him a bit. Hell notice peoples eyebrow movements. I get emotional now, watching him make a great effort to care about the people around him when the last decade of his life was lived in a glass box.这样的痛楚，Bieber自己也感慨过，
信任别人，对我真的太难。我挣扎着，觉得别人在用我，不是真正为我。写手们就是想从我获得什么，可以用来攻击我。我只有信靠自己。我做了一些不好的决定，个人的，与人相关的，都有。这些错误影响了我对自己判断的信心。甚至信赖Hailey，对我都有困难。
Its been so hard for me to trust people. Ive struggled with the feeling that people are using me or aren’t really there for me, and that writers are looking to get something out of me and then use it against me. One of the big things for me is trusting myself. Ive made some bad decisions personally, and in relationships. Those mistakes have affected my confidence in my judgment. Its been difficult for me even to trust Hailey.迥然不同的性格，是两人间的冲突原因，
但是或多或少地，也帮助了Justin更看到自己的需要，我是那个情绪不稳的。我渴望平安。我就是觉得我很在意，我想要事情做好，我想要大家喜欢我。Hailey非常有逻辑有条理，这是我需要的。我一直想要安全感，我小时候父亲常常不在，我也常在路上（巡演）。在我这样的生活方式下，什么都不确定。我想要有一件，确定的。那，（拉上Hailey的手），就是我的宝贝。
Im the emotionally unstable one. I struggle with finding peace. I just feel like I care so much and I want things to be so good and I want people to like me. Haileys very logical and structured, which I need. I’ve always wanted security—with my dad being gone sometimes when I was a kid, with being on the road. With the lifestyle I live, everything is so uncertain. I need one thing that’s certain. And that (he picks up her hand) is my baby boo.渴望平安，渴望确定，
这正是Justin的需要。聊到Justin的需要，现在可以来聊Selena了。
其实也是好女孩。
大家都是Hillsong教会的好朋友。2017年Hillsong Conference上，Selena Gomez的见证分享，讲述少年成名的小女生，从倚靠自己，追求完美，到最终认识什么是“够好”。
Selena，你已经够好！不是因为你已经努力，不是因为你已经爱的用心，或是你给脸上最美的装扮。不是因为你已经获得广阔的平台，也不是因为别人告诉你“你够好”。你够好，因为你是神的儿女，神从起初就已经在寻找你。你够好，因为祂的恩典已经救赎你，遮盖你。
Selena, you are enough! Not because youve tried hard, not because you have loved hard or put on your best face. Not because you have been given a large platform and not because others tell you “you are enough”. You are enough because you are a child of God who has been pursued from the very beginning. You are enough because His grace has saved you and covered you.在教会的“年轻自由复兴音乐会”（Young & Free Revival Concert）演唱原创的敬拜诗歌Nobody。

只是这两个人的爱情啊，
明明都读到哥林多前书，“爱是永不止息”。
实际是分分合合，永不止息。我是没有记住，也无力复述。
看Vogue的这篇详细timeline就好。A Detailed History of Selena Gomez and Justin Biebers On-Again, Off-Again
渴望平安，渴望确定，
Justin的需要，
Selena偏偏无法满足。很多八卦新闻，还提到Selena的妈妈，或者Selena的一家，都不能接受Bieber，
Justin家人都喜欢Selena的，但是Selena的家人不信任Justin，把她放在了冲突的位置。
Justins family loves Selena, but Selenas family has put her in a very conflicting spot because they still dont trust Justin.
Selena尽力说服家人，Justin已经改变……但是她家人目前还不退让。
Selena has tried to convince her family that Justin has changed...but her family just isnt budging right now.如果真是这个家庭因素，导致了过去的分分合合——那真是可惜。
相比之下，TMZ报道，Hailey的父亲称他们两个，
完美一对，因为他们有共同的基督价值。
the perfect match because the have the same Christian values.这两家父母的态度，还真是让人思想。
是相信曾经“渣男”，本性难移，
还是相信“在神凡事都能”，“旧事已过，都是新的”？对这样罪人，
该不该相信悔改，
要不要还给盼望，
配不配恩典相待？“凡事包容，凡事相信，凡事盼望，凡事忍耐……”
有些事情，口头上认同，和行为上的遵从，中间还是差了不少的信心。Instagram上，看见Justin立定心志，作好丈夫的美丽宣言，
我承诺，以荣誉和正直来带领我们的家，让耶稣藉祂的圣灵，在每件事情每个决定上带领我们。我的心完全属你，我将永远把你放在第一。
I promise to lead our family with honor and integrity letting Jesus through his Holy Spirit guide us in everything we do and every decision we make. My heart is COMPLETELY and FULLY YOURS and I will ALWAYS put you first!
“得着贤妻的，是得着好处，也是蒙了耶和华的恩惠。”
这就是耶和华的恩年！！！！
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains FAVOR from the Lord!” This is the year of favor!!!!Hailey父亲的盼望，千万不要辜负哦。
最后不能不聊的，是前几天（2月7日）Vogue的长篇封面专访。
Justin and Hailey Bieber Open Up About Their Passionate, Not-Always-Easy but Absolutely All-In Romance
几年前的坏男孩，如今成熟得叫人刮目相看。
对过去的罪，毫不遮掩，
我发现自己做的，都是我以为羞耻的，极其 *** 的事情。我想，我开始用Xanax，就是因为我自己深深的羞耻感。我在做那些事的时候，脑子里想的都是羞耻，所以我从来都没有享受过那些事情。药品，在我和我正做的事情之间，摆上一道障壁。太黑暗了。我晓得有几次，我的保安深夜里来摸我的心跳，看我还有没有呼吸。
I found myself doing things that I was so ashamed of, being super-promiscuous and stuff, and I think I used Xanax because I was so ashamed. My mom always said to treat women with respect. For me that was always in my head while I was doing it, so I could never enjoy it. Drugs put a screen between me and what I was doing. It got pretty dark. I think there were times when my security was coming in late at night to check my pulse and see if I was still breathing.两个年轻人对婚姻的认识，可以作许多更成年人的榜样。
震惊粉丝，是Justin自我要求的一年婚前禁欲。
*** 啊，Justin Bieber是什么名声呢？
19岁在巴西第一次嫖妓。
2013-2014年就已经性瘾难除。如今，Justin Bieber以禁欲作为自己与神亲近的操练。
神要我们拒绝（婚前的） *** ，不是因为祂要求我们遵守律例典章。祂是说，我在保护你，避免伤害和痛苦。我知道（婚前的） *** 会带来许多痛苦。有时候人们 *** ，是因为觉得自己不够好。是因为缺乏自我的价值。女人也这么做，男人也这么做。
He doesnt ask us not to have sex for him because he wants rules and stuff. Hes like, Im trying to protect you from hurt and pain. I think sex can cause a lot of pain. Sometimes people have sex because they dont feel good enough. Because they lack self-worth. Women do that, and guys do that.
我要这以样的方式重新委身，因为我真的感觉，这样对我灵魂的好处。我也相信神会因此祝福我和Hailey。这是有益的。好行为，会带给你奖赏。
I wanted to rededicate myself to God in that way because I really felt it was better for the condition of my soul. And I believe that God blessed me with Hailey as a result. There are perks. You get rewarded for good behavior.定婚公布后，立刻有Hailey已经怀孕，被迫快速结婚的流言，也因此消于无形。
Justin倒是承认，长期的禁欲，的确是快速结婚的一个重要原因。
对于自己的粉丝，Justin也是一样鼓励，
你不该和随便什么人 *** ，除非是你爱的。…… 你应该等候那个人……你爱的人。
I dont think you should have sex with anyone unless you love them. … I think you should just wait for the person youre … in love with.认认真真地完成婚前辅导，两人对婚姻经营的艰难也有清醒认识。
对于“健康的争吵”，Justin讲到他们在装点新房时的争执，承认自己还有婚姻中的功课要学，
争执是好的。圣经不是说到义怒么？我们不想失去彼此。我们不想说出错话，所以我们曾经是挣扎，坚持拒绝情绪的表达。这让我疯掉，因为我需要表达自己，而要Hailey说自己的感受，又是无比困难。
Fighting is good. Doesnt the Bible talk about righteous anger? We dont want to lose each other. We dont want to say the wrong thing, and so weve been struggling with not expressing our emotions, which has been driving me absolutely crazy because I just need to express myself, and its been really difficult to get her to say what she feels.婚姻需要努力，Hailey的这一段，根本可以直接上婚姻辅导的教材，
就是我要以正确的方法努力，建筑健康的关系。我希望大家知道。我们都非常真实。我们是两个一边走一边学的年轻人。我不会坐着躺下，幻想一切美好都会奇妙发生。婚姻从来都是困难。婚姻是选择。
Its just that Im fighting to do this the right way, to build a healthy relationship. I want people to know that. We’re coming from a really genuine place. But were two young people who are learning as we go. Im not going to sit here and lie and say its all a magical fantasy. Its always going to be hard. Its a choice.
你不会每天都是一样感受，你不会每天醒来说，“我的爱绝对完全，你也是完美爱人。”这不是结婚的样子。但是期待着，一起向着目标努力，决心和一个人共同建造——这婚姻的真正样子也是美丽的。
You dont feel it every single day. You dont wake up every day saying, "Im absolutely so in love and you are perfect." Thats not what being married is. But theres something beautiful about it anyway—about wanting to fight for something, commit to building with someone.
我们很年轻，是有些可怕。我们还会经历很多改变。但我们决心，在这变化中，一起成长，彼此支撑。这就是我的看法。在一天的结束，他，是我最好的朋友。我，对他永不厌烦。
Were really young, and thats a scary aspect. Were going to change a lot. But were committed to growing together and supporting each other in those changes. Thats how I look at it. At the end of the day, too, hes my best friend. I never get sick of him.突然想到罗振宇论婚姻，摘自2018年末的跨年演讲，
过去，婚姻是成年的第一件事，是人的成年礼。只有结了婚的人，才被认可为合格的社会细胞。而现在年轻人是怎么想的？婚姻，是把自己的人生整理好后才做的事。年轻人想，我人生道路还没定型呢，我自己还没想清楚呢，我爱什么样的人，跟什么样的人过一辈子还不知道呢，结啥婚？对，年轻人想的是：匈奴未灭，何以家为。唉唉，22岁的Hailey告诉你，
婚姻，不是一个人完全成熟后，所有变化结束后，最后的事项。
婚姻，是一起经历变化，共同学习和成长。建造，两个人的新生命一同成长。Justin Bieber，就是这么神奇。
开始是喜欢，
后来是叹息，
渐渐地，看见盼望，禁不住为他祷告，
如今突然就深刻无比！这不是经纪人团队重重保护下的小鲜肉，
只可远观的完美“人设”，
容不得一点点“崩塌”。他是真实无比的罪人，
明明有神的形象，无比宝贵，
却在世界的试探中堕落，远离，
偏行己路，尝遍罪中之乐后，
才认清今是而昨非。敬虔妈妈的祷告，现在可得安慰了。
“这个行业”里，谁说近墨者一定黑？Bieber对自己经理也说的明确，
不要这样。你们这些人，已经为你们所信的死了。我要死在我的信仰中。那必须是耶稣。
No. You guys have died for your faith. I would die for mine. It has to be Jesus.妈妈说，爱你 x 7
是啊，这样的Bieber，谁不爱爱爱爱爱爱爱？
亲亲宝贝——
何等恩赐！爸爸称赞，
为你骄傲，不足以描述。期待下一章。Bieber的未来如何，谁不期待呢？
Hailey手机上，还是天真无邪的小Justin,
“回到小孩子的样式”罢！
大家最爱的Justin Bieber，回来了。一个罪人悔改，在天上也要这样为他欢喜，较比为九十九个不用悔改的义人欢喜更大。Judah Smith牧师这样说，
我以前就说过，我从Justin身上学到的，超过我从自己身上学到的——有人的景况，有人的痛苦。
Ive said before that Ive learned more from Justin than I think hes learned from me—about the human condition, about pain.看看Justin，我们每个人都能学到功课。
不容易的Bieber！
“过也，人皆见之。更也，人皆仰之。”前路还长。
期待，
with prayers and blessings…